Don’t just be kind to others, be kind to yourself too

Don’t just be kind to others, be kind to yourself too

[ Millennials; how to get over modern causes for sadness and depression? (2/5) ]

So is the question I am trying to answer through a series of five posts.
The second source of unhappiness is that nonsensical search for perfection, combined with that sense of guilt for not reaching it.

As Epictet used to say; there is no point in wasting my time and energy trying to change the things over which I have no control – for it will hopelessly be in vain. I must first accept that there are certain things over which I have no control: the thoughts of others, their emotions, whether I will win the lottery, how will an exam go, how is an evening going to turn out…

Let go and learn to love things as they come, even when it’s beyond your control. Especially, when it is beyond your control.
It is wiser to use your skills to improve the things you can have an impact on. Nobody wants to see the hero running out of bullets before the closing act. Save your breath. Learn when to fight your battles, and when to move on.

‘I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.’ – Winston S. Churchill

Yesterday, I decided to stop blaming myself permanently. Today, I discovered that everything was easier that way.
Today, I stop believing in perfection. Tomorrow, I shall discover freedom.
Today, I realize that I no longer need to prove anything to anyone – least of all to myself. Tomorrow, I shall perhaps understand that my greatest weakness is to cut myself off from the strength of others in times of adversity.

Life isn’t as complicated as you tell yourself it is when you’re sad and alone.
Drop that need for perfection. Chill out. Get over this near-permanent sense of guilt. Run into a wall. Go ahead and try to convince the referee. Bend the rules a little. After all, it’s only life. It’s not like if you were going to get out alive.
Be a good person, but don’t waste time to prove it.

Part of becoming a man is to understand and accept that sometimes one loses – even having given the best of oneself.
Quit trying to do a million things at once. Stick to one or two main projects at once. Get them done. Then settle down and set new goals.

Try to understand that in today’s world, not losing sight of one’s personal goals is the most difficult thing.
The other day someone told me; ‘Since I’ve known you, this is what you’ve always said you wanted.’ It is a good thing to be clear about what you want in life. And it is even better fortune to have people to remind it to you when you doubt.

‘Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.’ – Helen Keller / Cape Reinga, New Zealand










N.B. This post of part of a five-post series called ‘Millennials; how to get over modern causes for sadness and depression?’
(1/5) The worst mistake we make is to take everything for granted so quickly
(2/5) Don’t just be kind to others, be kind to yourself too
(3/5) Today is tomorrow’s good old days

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